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Chikondi ndi chiyani?

Chikondi, ngakhale kukonda ena kapena kukondedwa, chimatipangitsa kumva kuti ndife olumikizidwa, otetezeka, okwanira, osamalidwa, odalira, osakhazikika, amoyo, opanga, opatsidwa mphamvu komanso amphumphu. Lalimbikitsa olemba ndakatulo, oimba, ojambula, olemba ndi akatswiri azaumulungu kwazaka zambiri. Koma kodi chikondi nchiyani? Nazi zosangalatsa makanema ojambula izi zimatiwonetsa momwe zimawonekera pochita.

Ndizofunikira kwambiri pamtima mwa ife tonse. Chosiyana ndi mantha, omwe amasonyeza mitundu yosiyanasiyana monga mkwiyo, kukwiya, nsanje, kupsinjika maganizo, nkhawa ndi zina zotero.

Kuti mupeze chikondi chochuluka, zimathandiza kwambiri kudziwa kuti chilakolako cha kugonana ndi chikondi, potanthauza kugwirizana, zimapangidwa ndi magawo awiri, koma ogwirizanitsidwa mu ubongo. Titha kumverera kukhala omasuka kwa bwenzi koma osakhala ndi chilakolako cha kugonana kwa iye. Titha kukhala ndi chilakolako cha kugonana kwa wina yemwe alibe womasuka. Kukhala ndi chidziwitso choyenera cha chikhumbo ndi mgwirizano ndicho maziko abwino a chiyanjano cha nthawi yaitali, chisangalalo, kugonana. Zonsezi ndi mphoto zachilengedwe.

Mphoto zachilengedwe kapena zazikulu ndizo chakudya, madzi, kugonana, ubale wachikondi ndi zachilendo. Amatipangitsa kuti tipulumuke ndikukhala bwino. Kufunafuna mphotho imeneyi kumapangitsidwa ndi chilakolako kapena chilakolako kudzera m'thupi la dopamine. Mphoto zachilengedwe zimatipatsa chimwemwe tikamadya, kumwa, kukondweretsa, ndi kulera. Maganizo okondweretsa otere amatsimikizira khalidweli kuti tifune kubwereza. Ululu wambiri, makamaka ngati utali wotalika, umatichotsa. Ndi momwe timaphunzirira. Zonsezi ndizofunika kuti pakhale zamoyo.

Zithunzi zolaula zimakhudza chilakolako chathu chofuna kugonana, makamaka achinyamata, popanda kugwirizana ndi chikondi. Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zambiri pa intaneti kwa nthawi yaitali kungayambitse kuvutika maganizo osokoneza mwa anthu ena. Kuphunzira kukonda zosangalatsa n'kofunika kwambiri pa moyo wathu wautali.

Pano pali chitsogozo chofulumira komanso chosavuta kumvetsetsa ntchito ya mankhwala omwe amachititsa kuti tizimva chikondi. Kumbukirani kupsompsona kwanu koyamba?

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