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Zotsatira za Maganizo a Zolaula

Mliri

Mliri wa Covid-19 umatanthawuza kuti anthu padziko lonse lapansi ali ndi nkhawa chifukwa chakusintha komanso kusatsimikizika komwe kachilomboka kamayambitsa m'moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku. Ambiri akutembenukira ku zolaula kuti athetse nkhawa kapena kukhumudwa, kapena kungopeza chisangalalo mwachangu. Makampani opanga zolaula omwe amapanga ndalama zochulukitsa madola mabiliyoni ambiri akugwiritsa ntchito mwayi kwa anthu ambiri kumva kutopa ndikakhala kunyumba ndipo akupereka mwayi kwaulere masamba olimbikitsa kuti agwiritse ntchito. Vuto lomwe lilipo ndiloti kukonza mwachangu nthawi zambiri kumakhala ndi zoopsa zobisika, monga kudalira pang'ono pang'ono komwe kumatha kubweretsa zovuta kwa ena. Masamba otsatirawa akuthandizani kukudziwitsani zowopsa komanso zomwe mungachite kuti mugwiritse ntchito njira zabwino pakadali pano. Chinthu chomaliza chomwe mukusowa ndikuwonjezera kupsinjika ndi kusapeza bwino komwe mukadapewa ndi chidziwitso chothandiza koyambirira.

Nawa maumboni awiri othandiza omwe mungaganizire mukamaganizira zolaula paumoyo wamaganizidwe:

  1. "Pazochitika zonse pa intaneti, zolaula ndizotheka kukhala zosokoneza,amati madokotala a sayansi ya ku Dutch Meerkerk et al. 2006
  2.  “Moyo wanu umasintha mukadziwa ubongo wanu. Zimatengera kudziona kuti mulibe vuto mukazindikira kuti pali zinthu zina zomwe zimayambitsa kukhumudwa, "atero katswiri wazamisala Dr John Ratey, (P6 Chiyambi cha buku" Spark! ").

Tisanalongosole tsatanetsatane wazovuta zakugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pakapita nthawi, tiyeni tikumbukire chifukwa chake kuli kofunika kuzitsutsa. Zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti zimalepheretsa kufunitsitsa ndikukhala ndi moyo weniweni, zogonana. Izi ndizomvetsa chisoni chifukwa chikondi chogonana komanso kukondana ndizo zina mwazabwino kwambiri zomwe tingakhale nazo monga anthu.

Kuphunzira za Zotsatira za Zolaula

Kuphunzira za zolaula paubongo ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri chothandiza anthu kuthana ndi zovuta zambiri zakuthupi komanso zakuthupi chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Pakadali pano, zatha Zotsatira za 85 zomwe zimagwirizanitsa thanzi labwino m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo ndi zolaula. Zotsatirazi zimachokera ku ubongo wa ubongo komanso nkhawa zamagulu mpaka maganizo, chithunzi cholakwika cha thupi ndi zovuta zina. Mavuto akudya, omwe awonjezeka mwa achinyamata, amapha anthu ambiri kuposa matenda ena aliwonse amisala. Zithunzi zolaula zimakhudza kwambiri malingaliro azithunzi za thupi.

Ngakhale kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwa maola atatu pa sabata kumatha kuyambitsa chidwi kuchepetsa imvi m'malo ofunikira muubongo. Mukalumikizidwa ndi ubongo, zikutanthauza kuti zimakhudza machitidwe ndi malingaliro. Kudya kwambiri zolaula pa intaneti nthawi zonse kumatha kupangitsa ogwiritsa ntchito ena kukhala ndi mavuto azaumoyo, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ngakhale kusuta. Izi zimasokoneza kwambiri moyo watsiku ndi tsiku komanso zolinga zamoyo. Ogwiritsa ntchito nthawi zambiri amalankhula zakumva 'dzanzi' kuzosangalatsa za tsiku ndi tsiku.

Onani vidiyo iyi yamphindi 5 pomwe a neurosurgeon amafotokozera kusintha kwa ubongo. Nayi a kugwirizana kwa kafukufuku wamkulu ndi kafukufuku wazovuta zamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro, komanso zovuta zakuganiza (kulingalira). Zotsatira izi zimakhudza kutha kwa wogwiritsa ntchito bwino kusukulu, kukoleji kapena kuntchito. Onani UFULU wathu mapulani a maphunziro za masukulu othandizira ophunzira kudziwa zaumoyo wamaganizidwe azolaula paumoyo wawo komanso kukwanitsa kuchita bwino kusukulu.

Zovuta Zomwe Zimachitika

Ngakhale kumangodya zolaula patapita nthawi, kungayambitse matenda amisala, anthu ena adakumana ndi zovuta m'miyoyo yawo ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti adzitonthoze. Pakadali pano, anthu amafunikira thandizo kuti ayanjanenso ndi matupi awo kuti awathandize kuthana ndi zoopsa zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti azigwidwa munjira zosayenera. Timalangiza bukuli ndi katswiri wazachipatala komanso wofufuza zamankhwala Pulofesa Bessel van der Kolk, "Thupi Limasunga Mapikidwe”Yochokera ku USA. Pali makanema ena abwino omwe amakhala nawo pa YouTube omwe amalankhula zamitundu yosiyanasiyana yamavuto osiyanasiyana (limbic brain) mankhwala zomwe zimagwira ntchito. Mmenemo amalimbikitsa mphamvu ya maseŵera a yoga ngati mankhwala oterewa. Mwachidule ichi amalankhula kusungulumwa ndi post traumatic stress disorder. Apa akukamba za kupwetekedwa mtima ndi kuphatikana. Izi zikukhudzana ndi zowawa zomwe anthu ambiri akumva chifukwa cha mliri, MATENDA A COVID19. Ndi wodzaza ndi malangizo anzeru.

Mndandanda womwe uli pansipa ukunena zazikuluzikulu zomwe akatswiri azachipatala amawona ndi kuwabwezeretsa ogwiritsa ntchito patsamba lakubwezeretsa monga NoFap ndi Kubwezeretsanso. Zizindikiro zambiri sizindikirika mpaka wogwiritsa ntchito atasiya milungu yochepa.

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Chizolowezi choonera zolaula chimatha kuyambitsa mavuto otsatirawa:

Kusungulumana kwa Anthu
  • kusiya kucheza ndi anthu
  • kukhala ndi moyo wachinsinsi
  • kunamizira anthu ena
  • kukhala odzikonda
  • kusankha zolaula kuposa anthu
Matenda a Maganizo
  • kumva kusakwiya
  • kumva wokwiya komanso wokhumudwa
  • mukukumana ndi kusintha kwa malingaliro
  • nkhawa zofalikira komanso mantha
  • kumva wopanda mphamvu pokhudzana ndi zolaula
Kugonana ndi anthu ena
  • kuchitira anthu ngati zogonana
  • kuweruza anthu makamaka potengera ziwalo zawo
  • mukukumana ndi kusintha kwa malingaliro
  • kusalemekeza zofuna za anthu ena zachinsinsi komanso chitetezo
  • kukhala osaganizira zokhudzana ndi kugonana
Kuchita nawo zoopsa komanso zoopsa
  • kupeza zolaula kuntchito kapena kusukulu
  • kupeza zithunzi zozunza ana
  • kutenga nawo mbali pazonyansa, zankhanza, zachiwawa, kapena zachiwerewere
  • kupanga, kugawa kapena kugulitsa zolaula
  • kuchita zachiwerewere zosavomerezeka komanso zovulaza
Wopanda mnzanu wosasangalala
  • maubale amasokonekera chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika komanso chinyengo chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula
  • mnzake amawona zolaula ngati kusakhulupirika mwachitsanzo "kubera"
  • mnzake amakhala wokwiya komanso wokwiya
  • maubale amawonongeka chifukwa chosakhulupirika komanso ulemu
  • mnzake amasamala za thanzi la ana
  • Wogonana naye amadziona kuti ndi wosakwanira ndipo amawopsezedwa ndi zolaula
  • kutaya kuyandikira kwamalingaliro komanso kusangalala mnjira zogonana
Mavuto Achiwerewere
  • kutaya chidwi chakugonana ndi bwenzi lenileni
  • kuvuta kukwiya komanso / kapena kuchita bwino popanda zolaula
  • malingaliro osokoneza, zolingalira, ndi zithunzi zolaula panthawi yogonana
  • kukhala wokakamizidwa zogonana komanso wamwano
  • kukhala ndi zovuta kulumikiza chikondi ndi chisamaliro chogonana
  • kumverera wogonana popanda wololera komanso wokakamiza
  • chidwi chakugonana kowopsa, chosokoneza, nkhanza, ndi / kapena kugonana kosaloledwa
  • kusakhutira ndikugonana
  • Zochita zogonana - kulephera kuchita bwino, kusinthasintha kwa thupi, kusokonekera kwa erectile
Kudzinyansa
  • kumva kuti sakukhudzidwa ndi zomwe munthu amakhulupilira, zikhulupiriro ndi zolinga zake
  • kutaya umphumphu
  • kudzidalira
  • kulimbikira kudziimba mlandu komanso kuchita manyazi
  • kumverera kolamulidwa ndi zolaula
Kunyalanyaza mbali zofunika pamoyo wathu
  • thanzi (kutaya tulo, kutopa, ndi kudzisamalira)
  • moyo wabanja (kunyalanyaza mnzawo, ana, ziweto ndi maudindo apabanja)
  • ntchito ndi kusukulu (kuchepetsera kuganizira, zokolola, ndi kupita patsogolo)
  • ndalama (kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama zolaula)
  • uzimu (kudzipatula ku chikhulupiriro ndi machitidwe auzimu)
Mankhwala osokoneza bongo a Porn
  • kulakalaka zolaula kwambiri komanso mosalekeza
  • kuvuta kuwongolera malingaliro, kapena kuyang'ana, ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula
  • kulephera kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngakhale zili ndi zotsatirapo zoyipa
  • Kulephera mobwerezabwereza kuti musiye kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula
  • Kufuna zomwe zili zowonjezera kapena kuwonetsa kwambiri zolaula kuti mupeze zofananira (Zizindikiro)
  • mukukumana ndi vuto komanso kusokonekera mukakhala kuti mwalandidwa zolaula (Zizindikiro zochotsa)

Mndandanda womwe uli pamwambawu unasinthidwa kuchokera ku buku "Msampha Wolaula”Wolemba Wendy Malz. Onani pansipa kuti muthandizire kafukufuku.

"Kutentha Kwakanthawi" ndi Zachiwawa Zogonana

Pakafukufukuyu "Kutentha Kwa Nthawi: Zotsatira Zogonana Pazisankho", Zotsatira zake zikuwonetsa kuti" kukopa kwa zochitika kumapereka chiwonetsero chazakugonana monga zokulitsa "mwa anyamata ...

“Chachiwiri chomwe chimatanthauzanso zomwe tikupeza ndi chakuti anthu amaoneka kuti amangodziwa zochepa chabe zokhudza zomwe zingakhudze chiwerewere pa ziweruzo ndi machitidwe awo. Kuyamika kotereku kungakhale kofunikira pakupanga zisankho payekha komanso pagulu.

“… Njira zodziletsa kwambiri mwina sizofuna mphamvu (zomwe zawonetsedwa kuti ndizosagwira ntchito kwenikweni), koma kupewa zinthu zomwe zingadzutse mphamvu ndikulephera kudziletsa. Kulephera konse kuzindikira za zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana kumatha kudzetsa njira zochepa zopewera izi. Mofananamo, ngati anthu sazindikira kuti ali ndi mwayi wogonana, atha kulephera kutenga njira zochepetsera kuwonongeka kwakukumana nako. Wachinyamata amene amalandira "ingonena kuti ayi," mwachitsanzo, atha kuwona kuti sikofunikira kubweretsa kondomu patsiku, motero kukulitsa mwayi wokhala ndi pakati kapena kufalitsa matenda opatsirana pogonana ngati atagwidwa ndi kutentha Pakadali pano. ”

“Mfundo zomwezo zimagwiranso ntchito limodzi. Ngati anthu angaweruze zomwe ena akuchita mwina powayang'ana pamene sakugonana, ndipo amalephera kuzindikira zotsatira zakugonana, pamenepo atha kudabwitsidwa ndi zomwe anzawo akuchita atadzutsidwa. Mchitidwe woterewu ungathandizire kugwiriridwa pachibwenzi. Zowonadi, zimatha kuyambitsa mavuto omwe anthu omwe sakopeka kwambiri ndi masiku awo amatha kugwiriridwa chifukwa chodzikweza okha amalephera kumvetsetsa kapena kulosera zamunthu wina (wadzuka). ”

"Mwachidule, kafukufuku wapano akuwonetsa kuti kukakamira kugonana kumakopa anthu m'njira zazikulu. Izi siziyenera kudabwitsa anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi chidziwitso chokhudzana ndi chiwerewere, koma kukula kwa zotsatirazi ndizodabwitsa. Momwemonso, zotsatira zathu zikuwonetsa kuti zoyesayesa zolimbikitsa kugonana kotetezeka, koyenera kuyenera kuganizira zokonzekeretsa anthu kuti athane ndi "kutentha kwakanthawi" kapena kuti azipewe ngati zingadzetse chiwonongeko. Khama pakudziletsa komwe kumakhudza zosaphika mphamvu (Baumeister & Vohs, 2003) atha kukhala osagwira ntchito poyang'ana kusintha kwakukulu kwazidziwitso komanso zolimbikitsa zomwe zimachitika chifukwa chodzutsa chilakolako. ”

Onani nkhani ya TEDx ya Dan Ariely pa Kudziletsa.

Kuledzera - zotsatira zakugona, ntchito, maubale

Zotsatira zoyambirira kwambiri zakuonera kwambiri zolaula za intaneti kapena masewera ndi momwe zimakhudzira kugona. Anthu amapilira 'otakataka ndi kutopa' ndipo samatha kuyang'ana kwambiri ntchito tsiku lotsatira. Kuluma pafupipafupi ndi kufunafuna mphotho ya dopamine kugunda, kumatha kubweretsa chizolowezi chovuta kuchimenya. Zitha kuchititsanso kuphunzira kwa 'pathological' momwe osokoneza. Ndipamene wosuta amapitilizabe kufunafuna chinthu kapena zochitika ngakhale atakumana ndi zovuta - monga zovuta kuntchito, kunyumba, m'maubale. Wogwiritsa ntchito mokakamizidwa amakumana ndi malingaliro olakwika monga kukhumudwa kapena kudzimva osasunthika akaphonya kugunda kapena chisangalalo. Izi zimawapangitsa kuti abwererenso mobwerezabwereza kuti ayese kubwezeretsa kukondweretsedwa. Kuledzera kumatha kuyamba mukamayesetsa kuthana nawo kupanikizika, komanso zimapangitsa wosuta kuti azikhala wopsinjika. Ndi nthawi yoyipa.

Zomwe chilengedwe chathu chamkati sichitha, ubongo wathu wamavuto umayesa kutanthauzira zomwe zikuchitika pazakale. Dopamine yotsika komanso kuchepa kwa ma neurochemicals ena okhudzana ndi thupi kumatha kubweretsa zosasangalatsa. Amaphatikizapo kusungulumwa, njala, kupsinjika, kutopa, mphamvu zochepa, kukwiya, kulakalaka, kukhumudwa, kusungulumwa komanso nkhawa. Momwe 'timamasulira' momwe tikumvera komanso zomwe zingayambitse zovuta, zimakhudza mayendedwe athu. Pokhapokha anthu atasiya zolaula azindikira kuti chizolowezi chawo ndi chomwe chachititsa kuti akhale osasangalala m'miyoyo yawo.

Kudziwa nokha

Nthawi zambiri timayesetsa kudziona kuti ndife osasangalala ndi zinthu zomwe timakonda kapena zomwe timakonda. Timachita izi osazindikira kuti mwina zinali zochulukirapo mu mkhalidwe kapena chinthu chomwe chidayambitsa kukhumudwa koyamba. Mphamvu ya hangover ndi rebochemical rebound. Ku Scotland, oledzera omwe ali ndi vuto la hangover tsiku lotsatira nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito mawu otchuka. Amalankhula zakukutenga “tsitsi la galu amene amakuluma”. Izi zikutanthauza kuti amwanso chakumwa china. Tsoka ilo kwa anthu ena, izi zimatha kudzetsa kuzunza kwambiri, kupsinjika, kudya, kukhumudwa ndi zina.

Zolaula zambiri…

Zovuta zakuonera kwambiri, zolaula zolimbikitsa kwambiri zimatha kubweretsanso mavuto ena. Zitha kukhala zovuta kuwona momwe kudya zolaula komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kungakhudzire ubongo wanu, koma zimatero. Ubongo umayankha pazokondweretsa, zamankhwala kapena zina. Zotsatira zake sizimayima pamalopo. Kudziwitsana pafupipafupi ndi izi kumatha kubweretsa kusintha kwa ubongo ndi zina zomwe zingakhale ndi izi:

Achikondi Achikondi

Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kuonera zolaula kumagwirizana ndi a Kusadzipereka kwa wokondedwa wanu. Kuzolowera chizolowezi chatsopano komanso kuchuluka kwakukondweretsedwa koperekedwa ndi zolaula komanso lingaliro loti mwina pangakhale winawake 'wotentha' mu kanema wotsatira, zikutanthauza kuti ubongo wawo sukakamizidwanso ndi anzawo enieni. Zitha kuletsa anthu omwe akufuna kuyika ndalama kuti apange ubale weniweni. Izi zimatanthauzira mavuto kwa pafupifupi aliyense: amuna chifukwa sakupindula ndi kutentha ndi kuyanjana komwe ubale weniweni umabweretsa; ndi akazi, chifukwa palibe zodzikongoletsera zowonjezera zomwe zingapangitse munthu kukhala ndi chidwi ndi zomwe ubongo wake udafunikira kuti ukhale wosangalatsa komanso wosasintha mwachilengedwe. Sizopambana.

Othandizira nawonso akuwona kuwonjezeka kwakukulu kwa anthu omwe akufunafuna thandizo kuti atengere pulogalamu ya zibwenzi. Lonjezo labodza lokhala chinthu chabwino nthawi zonse ndi kuwonekera kwina kapena swipe yotsatira, kumayimitsa anthu kuyang'ana kwambiri kudziwa munthu m'modzi.

Ntchito Yachikhalidwe

Pakuwerenga kwa amuna azaka za ku yunivesite, mavuto ndi chikhalidwe kuwonjezereka monga kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula kunayambira. Izi zinagwiritsidwa ntchito ku mavuto a maganizo monga kusokonezeka maganizo, nkhawa, kupanikizika ndi kuchepetsa chikhalidwe cha anthu.

• Kuphunzira kwa amuna ophunzira a ku Korea omwe ali ndi 20s omwe adapezeka kukonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti mukwaniritse ndikukhalabe osangalala. Adawona kuti ndizosangalatsa kuposa kugona ndi bwenzi.

Kukwanitsa Maphunziro

Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwawonetsedwa kuchepetsa mphamvu ya munthu kuchepetsa kukondweretsa kwa mphoto zamtengo wapatali zamtsogolo. Mwanjira ina, kuonera zolaula kumakupangitsani kukhala osamveka komanso osatha kupanga zisankho zomwe zikuwonekeratu kuti mumafuna monga kuchitira homuweki komanso kuphunzira kaye m'malo mongodzisangalatsa. Kuyika mphothopo tisanachite.

• Pa kafukufuku wa anyamata a zaka 14, mawonekedwe apamwamba owonetserako zolaula amachititsa kuti a chiopsezo cha kuchepa kwa maphunziro, ndi zotsatira zikuwoneka miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kenako.

Munthu amaziona zolaula kwambiri…

Zithunzi zolaula zomwe wamwamuna amawonera, nthawi zambiri amatha kuzigwiritsa ntchito pogonana. Zitha kumupatsa chikhumbo chochita zolemba zolaula ndi bwenzi lake, mwadala mwadzidzidzi kujambula zithunzi zolaula panthawi yogonana kuti akhalebe okondwa. Izi zimapangitsanso kukhumudwa chifukwa cha kugonana kwake komanso thupi lake. Komanso, zithunzi zolaula zimagwiritsidwa ntchito molakwika ndikusangalala ndi khalidwe logonana ndi mnzanu.

Chikhumbo Chotsika Chakugonana

Pakafukufuku wina, ophunzira kumapeto kwa sukulu yasekondale adalengeza kulumikizana kolimba pakati pa ziwonetsero zazikulu zolaula ndi chikhumbo chogonana chochepa. Otsatira anayi omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi imeneyi amavomereza kuti akugonana mosavuta.

• Phunziro la 2008 la kugonana mu France apeza kuti 20% ya amuna 18-24 "alibe chidwi pa kugonana kapena kugonana". Izi ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi zochitika za dziko la France.

• Ku Japan ku 2010: boma lovomerezeka kafukufuku anapeza kuti 36% amuna a zaka 16-19 "alibe chidwi pa kugonana kapena amakhala ndi chiwerewere". Amakonda pafupifupi zidole kapena anime.

Zokonda zogonana ...

Kwa anthu ena, zimakhala zosadabwitsa zokonda zachiwerewere zomwe zimasinthiratu atasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Apa nkhani ndi anthu owonera zolaula, amuna kapena akazi anzawo akuonera zolaula mosiyanasiyana. Anthu ena amakhalanso ndi zachiwerewere ndi zomwe amakonda kuchita ndi zokhudzana ndi kugonana. Zilibe kanthu kuti mawonekedwe athu kapena chikhalidwe chathu ndi chiani, Kugwiritsa ntchito kwambiri zolaula pa intaneti kumatha kusintha kwambiri ubongo. Zimasintha mamangidwe onse a ubongo ndikugwira ntchito. Popeza aliyense ndi wapadera, sizovuta kunena kuti zolaula ndizokwanira bwanji kungosangalala musanayambe kusintha. Kusintha makonda anu akugonana ndi chizindikiro, komabe, pakusintha kwa ubongo. Ubongo wa aliyense udzachita mosiyana.

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